A recent Choice Theory workshop that I attended was very productive. During a very valuable ninety minutes, the group discussed the negative consequences of criticism. Players and coaches shared how they had been affected by criticism. Coaches, family members, athletic directors, and others hurt people with thoughtless – and sometimes abusive – comments.
First of all, there is never any place for personal criticism. In sport, although it is necessary to provide feedback, comments should focus on specific behaviours, not a person’s character. Secondly, correction must be supplemented with encouragement to build the confidence of individual athletes and the entire team.
Unhappy people evaluate others, happy people self-evaluate. Greg Norman once said: “If you’re serious about improving your play, be brutally honest with yourself.”